Stay at Home Dads the New Norm

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Lance Somerfeld is one of a growing number of stay-at-home dads.


Lance Somerfeld is one of a growing number of stay-at-home dads.

NEW YORK (CNNMoney) — Before Jessica and Lance Somerfeld had their baby, they decided it would make the most financial sense for one of them to stay home to raise him. Since Lance made a fraction of Jessica's earnings, he was the obvious choice.

With wages at a standstill and child care costs skyrocketing, Somerfeld is just one of a growing number of dads who are staying home with the kids.


Among fathers with a wife in the workforce, 32% took care of their kids at least one day a week in 2010, according to the U.S. Census Bureau, which looked at families with children under 15 years old. That's up from 26% in 2002.

Of those with kids under the age of 5, 20% of dads in 2010 were the primary caretaker.

Not only has it become more necessary for men to pitch in at home, but fathers have also become more available to do so. "It's a combination of mothers going to work and fathers being out of work as a result of the recession," said Lynda Laughlin, a family demographer at the Census Bureau.

Men were particularly hard hit by thesteep job losses during that time, losing 4 million jobs since 2007, while women lost just over 2 million during the same time period, according to the Bureau of Labor Statistics.

While men have since gained backa majority of those jobs during the recovery, their unemployment rate– at 8.3% in March — is still above the national average of 8.2%.

Many find that having one parent at home does have its advantages, especially as child care costs continue to climb.

Couples do the math and realize that it makes more financial sense for one spouse to stay home with the kids. And while it's often the woman who decides to drop out of the workforce, more men are taking on the responsibility of child care as well.

A lot of that has to do with who makes the most money in the household. Even though the wage gap between the sexes persist, a growing number of women are out-earning their husbands. In 2008, 26% of women living in dual-income households had annual earnings that were at least 10 percentage points higher than their spouse, up from 15% in 1997, according to the Families and Work Institute's latest data.

As a New York City school teacher, Somerfeld said he made a fraction of his wife's salary. "She was probably making 80% of our household income and I was 20%," he said. Her career as a corporate actuary for an insurance company "was on a really good track and it made more sense for me to stay home."

But the decision they made wasn't strictly a financial one. "Too often, we hear that it's the economy that forces dads into these roles and that's certainly a part of it, but I would love to shatter that stereotype," Somerfeld said. "Being my son's primary caregiver is something I have truly cherished and embraced and never looked back."

Three years ago, Somerfeld started the NYC Dads group to connect with other fathers in a similar position. The group now has over 550 members.

"There are a lot of guys out there that had remote relationships with their own fathers and they don't want that with their kids," added Jeremy Adam Smith, a one-time stay-at-home dad and author of The Daddy Shift. "It's not just stay-at-home dads — fathers in general are participating more in their children's lives."

Regardless of their employment status, nearly half of the men surveyed by Families and Work Institute said they take most or an equal share of child care responsibilities, up from 41% 20 years ago.

Just don't call them "Mr. Moms," said Ellen Galinsky, president and co-founder of the Families and Work Institute. "Like it's a female task, I've never understood that."

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“BIG RAYS BBQ” – Allen,Texas Homemade Southern BBQ


I woke last week and had this crazy craving for some home cooked BBQ. Here I am attempting to become a vegan to no avail. This srumptuos BBQ Joint is right here in my own little City … calling my name!!! Oh, NO …

Big Ray's is a family owned business.
They serve a delicious blend of smoked meats, while providing excellent customer service.  
Their meats are slow cooked providing a tender and juicy flavor that truly melts in your mouth.

Complimented with their tasty sides and homemade desserts.  They have outstanding prices. I give them 2 thumbs up!
Whether call in, dine in or carry out
Monday- Thursday 11 am – 8 pm
Friday & Saturday 11 am – 9 pm   
400 E. Main Street
Allen, Tx 75002
Phone (972) 649-6242
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Full Service Movie iPic Theater -Fairview Texas

I had the privilege to attend a movie at the exclusive theater -iPic of Fairview,Texas. 

IPic Theater is an Upscale Movie Theater offering a selection of comfort, technology and service to all guests. It is dinner and a movie plus seat-side service all in one. They provide fresh ingredients on a full menu with a Signature drink – full bar. This is one luxurious cinematic experience!

They offer a variety of upscale services such as picking your seats when you buy your tickets online, a lounge to eat freshly prepared meals, and a fully stocked bar. After being escorted into the theater, moviegoers will enjoy a full reclining plush chair. A gold –standard experience that will make you feel like you’re in a private screening room.

Guests can sit on recliner seats equipped with a blanket and pillow while receiving in-theater food and beverage service the first 20 minutes of the film. Prices for these premium plush seats are affordable for the entertainment and service provided. Guests can also purchase tickets for regular seats without in-theater service.


Guests can dine at the Lounge, where several TVs accompany a menu of signature food and drinks. Should you want to impress a date or the family for the holidays, this is definitely the place to go.  iPic has a great social pad where you can sit and chat with friends and eat some tasty treats.

I was escorted into the theater and was given premium service. I especially enjoyed the Illegalito Signature drink. It tasted like pineapples, mint with a splash of rum. I nibbled on some savory sirloin trio burgers with sweet potato fries. After my meal I was given a bag of popcorn to end my movie.  It was a true upscale movie experience. iPic will be hosting a New Years Eve party with all the bells and whistles.   This is definitely a great, safe place to enter the New Year.

Hope to see you there!!!

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Allen Outlets

Allen Premium Outlet is an extremely great place to shop during the week. It is one of the nicer outlets in the D/FW area. The reason I go during the week is because it is impossible to park and shop during the weekend. One of my major complaints is the ability to park and shop at the store across the way without having to walk the complete circle and having to keep going to your car to make shop-drops because if you don't, by the time you get back to your car, your arms will be sore from one store to the next for having to carry all of your bags for blocks until you get back to your car. My suggestion to them would be to have rent-a-strollers for your bags and construct  a bridge walkway from one side to the other.. maybe even a nice sitting park area in the middle would be great! Until then… I'll be shopping during the week. Allen Premium Outlets 820 West Stacy Road-Allen, TX 75013-(972) 678-7000yesyesyes

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Jalapenos Grill Allen,Tx TGIF Texas Sized Margaritas!

For the best in Tex-Mex Grill you must go to Jalapenos Grill in Allen,Texas. Jalapenos has the most hospitable staff. The owner gives his own personal service and is attentive to detail. The food is always fresh and they will accommodate your plate to your liking. I love their Happy Hour heehehee… those infamous Texas Margaritas are the bomb. Jalapenos  has a sports bar area with big screen Tvs everywhere… They make sure you don't miss game time when you want to run out to grab some nice home-cooking.  The prices are very reasonable and $$ affordable and the best thing about Jalapenos is they are family oriented. If you are an Allenite and haven't visited Jalapenos Grill in Allen, you are missing a diamond in the rough. Should you come out to Allen TX to shop at the outlet mall, make sure to make a detour from all of the chain restaurants to Jalapenos Grill.  See you there!!!  Jalapenos Grill 121 N. Greenville Ave. Allen, Texas. (214) 383-0215  yesyesyesyesyes

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